Most men today get easily offended when their manhood is challenged because of irresponsibilities. How can you call yourself a man when your priority is a new car, but your child's mother is not getting half the amount of your monthly car payment for child support? How can you call yourself a man when your objective is always the next piece of ass, but not the quality time you need to spend with your child or your family?
You can't call yourself a man if you're not responsible. Being responsible doesn't mean you can blame your lack of motivation or lack of work on the economy. Staying at home and complaining is not gonna help you get where you want to be. You have to make moves in order for anything to transpire. An intelligent man is a thinker who finds solutions to problems. You have to be a good role model for your children; teach them how get out of a bind; show them encouragement, get motivated; be a good father; be a good husband; be a good friend and take ownership for your mistakes.
Most of us didn't grow up with the best example of a good man in our lives, and that is all the more reason why we should break the cycle. Don't blame your faults on your father, be a better man than he was. Achieve more and let go of the excuses because they will weigh you down.
What makes you think you're a good man?
Ladies, share with us the good values of your good man.
VERY WELL WRITTEN RICHARD!...I SHALL PASS THIS ON TO THE MEN THAT NEED IT!...((and thats most)..~smile~...Billie Carter
ReplyDeleteI have NOTHING to add...you spoke TO the MEN.
ReplyDeletevery well said Mr. Jeanty..i'll surely pass this on as well..
ReplyDeleteAgreed...well said. Sorry brothas need to be called out. However, I must say, I think brothas (as a whole) get a bad rap. I know my share of brothas that aren't doing all they can to support their families and kids. But, I can say with the utmost confidence, I know more brothas that take being a daddy VERY serious and bend over backwards to support their family and kids. Unfortunately, those brothas aren't the ones spotlighted on CNN, court television shows, and unfortunately - by a lot of sistas. Don't believe the hype...black men by in large have and continue to handle their business. Just my opinion.
ReplyDelete@Brian, Just like you, I have been fortunate to have some good friends that I grew up with. Most of the brothers I grew up with are great examples as fathers. I wrote this post to address the men who run from their responsibilities and feel like the world is against them because of it. I was also hoping that the ladies would share their great stories of good men. We hear the negative all the time, but not one woman has stepped up to talk about her good man. I already know that not all men are bums or deadbeat, but the brothers can also say their piece to let the ladies know their stance on this.
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